There is an old Indian saying that a woman should love her husband in many different ways: with the affection of a sister, the care of a mother, the understanding of a friend, and, under the sheets, the free abandon of a concubine! When I first learned of this as a teenager, the feminist in me bristled. All these rules about how a woman needs to love her man and none for how a man needs to love a woman, I fumed. Far from those youthful days now, I see that love is indeed a “m