As Valentine’s Day arrives and newbies to love and friendship are celebrating the joy and beauty in those gifts, many of us who have been here living and loving for longer than them move on to a different part of the journey - the more challenging part, where that love is no longer blind, but awake to the imperfections in the beloved. Once we move from the early struggles of finding love, from the fear of losing the object of our affection, a trickier obstacle stands before